The Kids Will Not Save Us

We’re days from the midterm elections here in the US. We have outright racist voter suppression in Georgia and North Dakota and elsewhere. We have thousands of kids deeply traumatized from being torn away from their families and too many still separated. We have an alcoholic rapist in the Supreme Court who thinks people with low IQs should be forced to have abortions. Brave women survivors who speak out are facing death threats and law suits. We have withdrawn from the UN Human Rights Council. We have a congress violating standards of procedure to pack federal courts with conservative judges. Our government isn’t allowing same sex partners of diplomats to have visas. We are in baffling, absurd, and selfish official denial of climate change.

I keep seeing friends post things their kids said about fairness and love and justice and then saying “the kids will save us.”

OMG no.

If we won’t save ourselves my kids will be too busy mourning their friends who died from illegal abortions or had their families torn apart by ICE to save anyone.

We have to save ourselves now. I tell my daughter a little bit about what’s happening, about bullies and separating families and lies and hurting people and bravery. But it’s not just cause I’m unschooling, I don’t put pressure on her to save us.

Her cute drawing aboutBlogphoto justice does not stand in for my action, it’s just a learning process.

And she’s learning from me and a few other people. She’s getting a distilled version of the wisdom of my life and a few others, and if we haven’t learned how to save anyone how in the &$#$ will she?

The day Kavanaugh was nominated, we went to a pumpkin patch. Because this was really important to my kids, and they are kids. They know what’s happening and they watch me take action. I let them know what I do. But they don’t need to take on that weight right now.

I’ve been reading posts from Humans of New York in Rwanda telling the stories of rescuers–people who actually saved other people from genocide. They are amazing because they are normal people, taking normal practical actions. And while of course this genocide goes beyond (I think and hope) what is happening at this moment in the US, the prelude of culturally and politically making hate normal is frighteningly familiar.

And what made these people rescuers? A commitment that hurting others is not acceptable, and that hurting others is more frightening than the actions they took to save people.

I hope so much that in the US we can have that commitment right this minute. People are hurting. Kids are in camps–call them internment or detention or prison or whatever. We are too late for many, but there is no way we should wait to toss the weight of an ever-warming world on our kids shoulders when they turn 18.

Right now, doing nothing is unacceptable. And this isn’t about guilt tripping. There’s a lot I can’t do.  Find what works for you, but find it soon, don’t just picture your kid doing it someday.

Ideas for adults:

Support women running
https://weareultraviolet.org/ballot-races/

Moms Rising actions
https://www.momsrising.org/take-action

Find hope in the Small Victories Newsletter
https://www.celebratesmallvictories.com/

Read Rebecca Solnit on hope
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/oct/14/climate-change-taking-action-rebecca-solnit?CMP=share_btn_tw

Write letters to voters
https://www.votefwd.org/

Canvass for Heidi Heitkamp, Stacey Abrams, Beto O’Rourke, or whoever you can get to.

Check out the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network for ideas for Autistic activism:
http://autisticadvocacy.org/resources/

Donate to or volunteer at your local Domestic Violence shelter.

Donate to or volunteer at your RAINN
https://www.rainn.org/

Donate or volunteer for organizations that have been working to rescue people from harm for a long time:
https://supportkind.org/
https://webelongtogether.org
https://www.theyoungcenter.org/
las-americas.org
https://www.aclu.org/

Join an Indivisible chapter:
https://www.indivisible.org/

 

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    1. For sure. My generation is crippled by debt and the increasing gap between rich and poor. I actually think it’s the baby boomers who are healthy and comfortable who need to be on the phone and at protests trying to help out. I really admire the “valve turners” for doing this: https://orionmagazine.org/article/one-good-turn/

      From the article:

      Annette: Even if you are not in a position to risk arrest, there is a role for everybody in this kind of direct, dramatic action. Everybody has something to contribute: food, travel support, organizing tours, public outreach, coordinating with churches, organizing, nurturing and healing, networking. We could not have done what we did without a lot of support behind the scenes.

      Kathleen: I think that’s an important point. The consequences of a felony jail term are serious, as the history of direct action movements tells us. When I was teaching, I didn’t advise my students to take these risks. But I did tell them that there are many, many ways to be involved in direct action, and they are all important.

      Annette: I would say, though, that if you are an older white person, this is your job. Those of us in privileged positions are not likely to be beaten or killed by the police, but young activists and people of color don’t have the safety that we have. We no longer have jobs to worry about. We no longer have children at home. If risks have to be taken, we have to take them.

      Michael: I take to heart the words of Chief Arvol Looking Horse. “Did you think the Creator would create unnecessary people in a time of such terrible danger? Know that you yourself are essential to this world. Understand both the blessing and the burden of that. You yourself are desperately needed to save the soul of this world. Did you think you were put here for something less?”

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