An Introduction: Unschooling and the Autism Spectrum
This is the place to start. I’ve found by immersing myself in the stories of autistic people I can empathize so much more with my kid. A key example: her not responding to a simple request, and me feeling angry about having to ask a dozen times. After I read autistic people’s stories of not processing people’s words and then being yelled at, I realized my anger had no place.
Amethyst Schaber’s Youtube channel is hands down the first resource I’d recommend to a parent of an autistic kid:
What Every Autistic Girl Wishes Her Parents Knew
This is a beautiful book and not just for parents of girls. It’s empowering, and gives you confidence that truly respecting your kid is best for them in the long run. This is published via the Autism Women’s Network.
The Real Experts
This collection has so many insights from a variety of autistic writers and is an excellent foundation for rethinking ableism and making life accessible and joyful for your kid.
The Autistic Self-Advocacy Network
This is a network of local groups that advocate for neurodiversity, respecting kids, and against ABA. They offer scholarships and political activism guides to empower the autistic community. They’ve been a force for good in our current political situation in the US.
The Reason I Jump by Naoki Higashida
This is a beautiful, piece-by-piece account by an autistic teenager in Japan, co-written with David Mitchell, that gave me a much better initial understanding of what it’s like to be autistic.
The State of Grace by Rachel Lucas
Rachel Lucas’ daughter was diagnosed as autistic, and then she realized she was autistic too. This young adult fiction imagines what an autistic teenager’s daily challenges might be and how a few accommodations and a bit of understanding can make life pretty good.
You can find many many blogs here, at Actually Autistic blogs, written by autistic people with descriptions for each link.
For parents specifically, the collaborative blog Respectfully Connected has a wealth of reflections on respectfully parenting neurodiverse kids, and many of the articles are written by neurodiverse Parents.
These are blogs that I’ve appreciated:
Once you’ve read a bit from autistic voices, I’d recommend the facebook group Ask Me, I’m Autistic. But! Either be willing to stay quiet and listen there for a long time, or do some in-depth reading of autistic voices first. The facebook group is an excellent resource where only autistic people comment on posts for the first 24 hours, making a much-needed space. But it’s admins are stretched thin, so please only join if you are ready to listen respectfully!