I was going to title this "how to advocate for your autistic kid." Then, "how to advocate for your kid who's different" since autism isn't the only thing making kids get bullying comments from kids and adults. But as soon as I wrote that I realized: all kids are different. All kids need advocates. The... Continue Reading →
We haven't been to the library much because it's been hard with a run-away toddler. But they had a program about making glow-in-the-dark slime! So we made it there, and I found ways to contain and entertain the toddler. My daughter was so excited. She was mixing and shouting "yo ho ho!" She was telling... Continue Reading →
Over the past year my relationships have shifted and changed--sometimes precipitously like unexpected sneaker waves sweeping me off my feet. I've done a lot of seeking in that time. Since the little kids make it hard for me to read I've looked to new forms of guidance. Even as old relationships have shifted new mentors... Continue Reading →
I've been trying to make my way out of the swamp of white privilege for 20 years. I've definitely taken some wrong turns. I've made more progress since quitting academia and beginning to unschool full time. I'm learning how to listen. So despite all these wrong turns, now I think working toward being an anti-racist white person is pretty simple. This is what I've come to: listen, speak, act.
Yesterday I had several people decide to tell me to spend less time with my kids, squash out meltdowns by ignoring them and refusing to be manipulated, and cut out tv and video games. Today I'm not answering the phone. Today we ran races in the front yard and were awarded handmade trophies. We learned... Continue Reading →
There are three core values that I thought I'd impose as a parent, which I've found I have no interest in "imposing"--if that can be done successfully with values. First, I imagined we'd be a screen-free family, or only watch Sesame Street. Ha.Sesame Street scares the crap out of my daughter. "Mario's Nightmare" on youtube... Continue Reading →
I think I can forgive myself for not writing for 4 months. Those last couple posts, in the midst of having a tiny baby and an autistic kid, remind me that it has gotten easier now. Even as I long for the next year when it will, I think, get easier. Even as I adore... Continue Reading →
One of the original things I wanted to post on this blog was my daughter's love for rosemary. (This addresses a larger purpose of writing the blog: creating another online reference example of what unschooled learning looks like). As I've said before, I am not a huge fan of parks even though my daughter is.... Continue Reading →